In Bloom Not Broken by Katie Maylea – Book Review

Here is my review of ‘In Bloom Not Broken’ by Katie Maylea.

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Due to the nature of this book, this review may be slightly different than the rest I have published. ‘In Bloom, Not Broken’ is a true story about Katie Maylea’s experiences with her own Mental Health Problems. The story follows Katie’s upbringing and how she dealt with her hardest times dealing with anorexia, self-harm and bipolar disorder.

In Bloom Not Broken is a beautifully written story, it was at times quite upsetting to read when you realize that this is somebody’s life and they actually had to deal with all of this. As a reader, we can only imagine how hard this was for Katie and I applaud her for sharing these memories with us all.

In Bloom Not Broken has parts of the story which are exact extracts from her diary, I thought these pieces although they were distressing at times. They were helpful to the story and expressed her opinions and thoughts at that exact time in her life. Some of the diary extracts were poems, which I must add were beautifully written and I think they actually deserve a book on their own.

Katie tells us her truth into how she grew up and how in her early teens she started to struggle with self-harm and anorexia, she talks about her experiences with being admitted and how she struggled to get help when she was asking for it. Katie brings up some very valid points when she is talking about how the NHS deals with Anorexia which I strongly agree with her P.O.V and I hope that the NHS have resolved these issues since Katie’s experience.

Katie’s writing style is raw and honest, as she delves into her story of struggles with mental illness. It is a story that provides a hint of hope for those struggling. Katie openly admits that although the story has a slightly happier ending than most mental health stories, she still suffers from her mental health and is still sharing her experiences.

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Since these event’s and getting diagnosed with Bi-Polar disorder. Katie is now trying to advocate for Mental Health and help those who are struggling. Katie’s story is very inspiring to people out there who are suffering to learn to speak up and talk about their experiences in the hope that someone who is suffering will find it comforting to know that they are not alone and that hopefully the system revolved around mental health will improve.

“You’ve got this. Find your theme tune, play it at the highest possible decibel, keep fighting, and always finish with a semicolon;” – In Bloom Not Broken by Katie Maylea

Buy ‘In Bloom Not Broken’ here. (Affiliate Link)

Visit Katie’s blog here. Katie also runs a handmade shop full of lots of inspirational and motivational items here.

If you would like me to review your book don’t hesitate to email me at whatsinmywonderland@gmail.com and we can try and make an arragment.

Nadiya: Anxiety and Me – Documentary Review

I was recommended by a friend that I should watch the BBC Documentary Nadiya: Anxiety and Me. I thought I’d give it a watch and see if any of it would be useful for me as a sufferer of Anxiety and that I would write a review on it too.

Nadiya Hussain is a TV chef, who has been suffering Anxiety related symptoms for as long as she can remember at the start of the show she very openly admits that she has never been formally diagnosed and she’d just learned to accept it and survive rather than trying to face her issues.

From the moment I started the documentary, I felt I could relate to Nadiya and her situation. Nadiya decides she needs to find a solution and work towards getting back on track. Whilst she searches she finds that the two most effective solutions to anxiety are medication and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, otherwise known as ‘CBT’. Nadiya decides to take the CBT because the medication hasn’t proven to work for her in the past. We actually got to watch a lot of her therapy sessions which I found very interesting to watch. Nadiya and her therapist try to pinpoint what may have triggered her anxiety in the first place. After finding out that her anxiety was triggered a traumatic experience from when she was younger, she searches to see if Anxiety could be passed on to her children in her genes. She finds out that Anxiety is in fact not genetic and it is something that is triggered by your nurture and not your nature.

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Nadiya uses baking and organizing things as a way to control her anxiety. I understand how she lets these small tasks dominate her life, I myself can relate to that. I find housework as a distraction from facing my problems head on. Having anxiety can make you feel out of control of certain aspects of your life so I think it can be quite common to use some kind of control over a certain insignificant thing, you use it to take back some of the control and to keep yourself distracted and busy.

She learns through her CBT sessions that panic attacks, do go away on their own if you stop forcing them to go away and stop using the things you think are making you feel better. You don’t have to just accept it, it isn’t going to be easy but you can take control.

I actually felt mildly disappointed when the Documentary was over as I was enjoying it and found it incredibly interesting and helpful. It provided me with an insightful view of people who are suffering like me and how other people have proceeded to get help. Which is something I am still trying to do. It’s really different to watch and hear how this is affecting somebody else’s life, although we are both anxiety sufferer’s, both of our stories and expeirences are different.

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During the documentary Nadiya talks about how she hopes the documentary will help others, she says ‘If Nadiya can do it then so can I!’ which I really loved. It’s very true, I am very inspired by Nadiya’s story and if I wasn’t already, I am a fan. Nadiya is so honest and I am in awe of her bravery that it took for her to stand up and speak openly about her struggles and show other people that they can too!

I did relate to Nadiya’s story and I’m very glad that she was able to share her journey into recovering from Anxiety. Her story is inspiring and I hope it helps many people to speak up and seek the help that they need. I wish her all the best on her journey. You can watch Nadiya: Anxiety and Me on BBC iPlayer here!

What are your thoughts on the Nadiya: Anxiety and Me documentary? Tell me in the comments!

If you have any suggestions of what you think I should watch, leave them down in the comments too!

Finding A Diagnosis (Interview) – Mental Health Awareness Week 2019 (7/7)

 

As part of Mental Health Awareness week, I was very grateful to be approached by Erica who agreed to answer some questions and share her story into getting diagnosed with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

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Erica is an inspiration to myself, and I am very proud of how far she has come in the short time I’ve known her. Erica is a Harry Potter fanatic who loves to read, colour and support the Mental Health Community. Erica is a wonderful, supportive person who is trying to open up more about her Mental Health in the hope that she can help someone out there who is suffering.

Trigger Warning: Brief mentions of suicide and self-harm.

 

When did you first start to notice Mental Ill Health symptoms?

I first realized that my mental health wasn’t great when I was a teenager, a teacher made me realize that feeling like I wanted to die was not a normal way to feel. Since my teens, I have been treated several times by my GP for clinical depression and anxiety. The most recent time I realized that I was beginning to struggle again was around the end of September 2016, I got upset in my slimming world class because I realised that I didn’t care if I lost or gained weight because I didn’t want to be alive anymore. That was my first realisation that my mental health was declining again.

How long did you suffer before speaking out and why?

This time it took me several months before I was able to speak out and admit to anyone that I was struggling with my mental health. Prior to this decline, I felt the happiest I’d ever been, I had lost 10 stone in weight, my confidence and self-esteem were higher than they’d ever been in my life, I felt like I’d finally learned to love myself for the first time and everyone in my life was telling me how amazing and inspirational I was. This was a big part of the reason why I didn’t admit to anyone that I was struggling, everyone kept telling me how inspirational I was, but I didn’t feel like I was living up to or could live up to everyone’s expectations of me, the self-doubts crept in and the more people complimented me, the more I began to doubt my ability to be this amazing person people seemed to think I was. I was also scared of letting everyone down, of disappointing everyone around me, so I kept quiet about how I was feeling, and carried on like everything was fine. I spent a few months like this, pretending I was fine, carrying on like normal while inside I felt like my whole world was crumbling around me. I was just too scared of letting people down to tell anyone how I really felt.

When did you start the process into finding a diagnosis and how did you find it?

Initially, I sought out counseling via a charity that I had worked with in the past, this was around February time, I thought that by talking things over in counseling I would be able to get myself back to feeling ok again. By May, however, it was clear to me that this wasn’t going to be possible and that I needed to reach out before I did something that there was no coming back from. I was living day, today, the intrusive thoughts I was experiencing were bombarding me and I was terrified of myself, I spent hours planning my suicide and hours battling the urges to self-harm or do something dangerous. I work checkouts and I remember clearly sitting at my checkout and being unable to engage with any customers because the fight in my head was too loud for me to even focus on anything else. By that point, my concentration for tv or reading was pretty much non-existent too. I realised that day that I was no use to anyone in the state that I was in, I had 2 choices, I either reach out and ask for help, or I let the thoughts take me once and for all. I’ll never forget how broken I felt, crying on the phone to my husband, begging him to save me from myself. He took me to see my GP, initially, I was started on medication and signed off work for a few weeks.

This was the beginning of an 8-month journey towards a diagnosis, a journey that involved weekly GP appointments, weekly therapy sessions with 2 different counselors, several referrals to mental health services, a referral to inclusion matters, intervention from social services, and finally an assessment with a psychiatrist. I found the process on the whole totally draining because I was being told so many different things, I might benefit from going inpatient, I simply had depression and nothing more, I was too complex for my GP to help me. If I didn’t have the support of my husband at that time, who came to every appointment and meeting (except my therapy sessions) with me, who was my voice when I couldn’t find the words I needed, he got me through those 8 months and I’m so grateful that I had him there fighting my corner, insisting we didn’t get turned away or dismissed.

Did you have a hunch of what your diagnosis might have been?

Initially, I didn’t, I was told by my GP that I was suffering from clinical depression and anxiety disorder and I don’t think she thought there was any point in me seeing a psychiatrist as she had already told me why I was struggling. I had an idea that I probably had PTSD – post-traumatic stress disorder, as I had a history of traumas in my past which caused me to struggle with flashbacks and panic attacks, I also learned during this time that I dissociated myself from my emotions a lot, in order to deal with trauma I was somehow able to disconnect my emotions from the trauma so when I spoke about it I didn’t link the traumatic memories with emotions.

I’m not sure why we pushed for a diagnosis, I’m not sure what I thought I was going to gain from the experience, but I just felt that what I feeling was more than just depression or anxiety like the GP was saying it was. I just desperately wanted answers or an explanation for why I felt this way, and how to get better again.

What was your initial reaction to being diagnosed with BPD and PTSD?

When the psychiatrist diagnosed me with Borderline Personality Disorder or Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, my first reaction was a relief, finally an answer, something that could explain my symptoms and the way I was feeling. That day the psychiatrist told me to google BPD when I got home, and do some research while my referral to the complex needs team was going through.

Did you research your diagnosis? What did you find out about BPD and PTSD?

I did, because my psychiatrist had told me too, I thought I was being clever and only looked at what I believed to be helpful sites like Mind and NHS direct. (I’m not saying these sites are not helpful, but the information regarding BPD was not what I expected to find.)

I found out that BPD can be a controversial diagnosis because of the stigma attached to Personality disorders. People believe that those with BPD can be manipulative due to the fear of abandonment, have intense rages or temper tantrums due to the unstable emotions and are attention seekers as self-harm and suicide attempts are really high in BPD sufferers. Everything I read about the disorder just seemed so negative and instantly I went into panic overdrive, I felt awful. I had waited so long for a diagnosis and answers and now it felt like I’d been handed a life sentence. I was already in a bad place so I couldn’t see any of the potential positives of being diagnosed with BPD. Within days of my diagnosis I took an overdose and ended up in A&E, I didn’t think I could live like that anymore. Luckily the psychiatric liaison team was fab, and they contacted the complex needs team to rush through my appointments and get me started on the road to recovery.

What actions did you take moving forward with your recovery?

Moving forward I began to meet up weekly with the coordinator of the complex needs team, she put me in touch with a recovery mentor at the centre. (a lady like myself who had been diagnosed with BPD and had engaged in treatment and been through services who was now leading a stable life and helping others.) I was accepted into an intensive outpatient therapy twice weekly, one session was DBT or Dialectical Behaviour Therapy, and the second session was a one to one therapy session with a psychologist. DBT is a group therapy which teaches you how to regulate your emotions and how to interact with people in a healthy way and how to tolerate distressful situations that might arise in life. The core principle of DBT is mindfulness, learning how to remain in the present moment and not judging your thoughts or situations, it teaches that thoughts and feelings are temporary and can pass so long as we do not engage with them or act upon them in a negative way. This therapy has changed my way of thinking, it has enabled me to give myself space to think before reacting to situations instead of reacting instinctively out of anger or frustration I’m now able to step back, think about the situation and calm myself before figuring out how to react. By making these changes and learning these skills and techniques, I have been able to turn my life around completely, and my fuse is definitely longer than it used to be before this!

How do you now feel, after the initial shock, about having BPD and PTSD?

It’s been almost 18 months now since I was diagnosed and I’ve come to terms with it now. I’ve realised that there are also some very positive traits to BPD, things like the ability to empathise with others, the intense emotions we experience also allow us to feel empathy. We make loyal friends and form great bonds with people and although we feel negative emotions more intensely than others, this also means we experience the positive emotions more intensely too, we don’t feel happy, we feel intense joy, we don’t just like someone we adore them! I have found that since my diagnosis I have been able to make sense of a lot of my past behaviors and things that have happened in my life, and realising that It helps explain a lot of things for me. I’ve also learned that I am more than my personality disorder, yes it makes up part of who I am, but it does not and it will not define me, I’m still me.

How have you found your recovery?

My recovery has been a long and grueling road, I’ll be completely honest, and I understand now that my recovery journey will never really truly end. I’ll spend the rest of my life in ‘recovery’, I may even relapse and need further treatment in future, but that prospect no longer scares me because I know I have the ability to recover and survive. Some of the DBT sessions have been hard and really intense, some of the skills I’ve learned have taken time to master, and one of the best things I’ve learned is that it’s ok to admit that you made a mistake and you can always try to put it right.

I just aim to always try to be the best that I can be these days, and I hope that I will carry on learning and growing as I carry on my recovery journey.

What advice would you give to someone suffering?

My advice to anyone suffering is not to suffer in silence. Find someone you can trust and reach out for help, try to build a support network of trusted family and friends and professionals if possible and try to put a crisis plan in place for emergencies, so you know who to call or where to turn in times of crisis. Mindfulness is an amazing skill to learn, and it is so helpful to be able to step back and breathe without judging yourself or your thoughts, I would advise everyone to look into mindfulness and learn what they can because I’ve found it really useful. Learning to be kind and gentle with yourself when you know you are struggling is also key, we tend to be our own worst critics and when you’re feeling low the last thing you need is to be hearing how awful you are and how rubbish you are, especially from yourself. Take time, be kind to yourself, and talk, I’ve found talking about how I feel and being open and honest has helped me massively. We see no shame in seeking a GP’s help if we have tonsillitis or cardiologists help if we have a heart attack, or a dentists help if we have a toothache, so we shouldn’t feel any shame in seeking therapists help if we have a low mood or dark thoughts.

Thank you so much, Erica, for sharing this with me and my blog. I admire your honesty and bravery for sharing your story and trying to help other people who are suffering from Mental Health problems. Thank you for your lovely advice and insightful view!

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If anyone would like to chat about Mental Health I am always available. You can contact me via email at whatsinmywonderland@gmail.com or via any of my social media’s. I am not a professional and I cannot offer you professional advice. I can offer a listening ear and help you seek help if need be. All conversations will be 100% confidential and I will not judge you in any way. I would hate for anybody to feel alone, you are not alone. I am here for you.

Self Care – Mental Health Awareness Week 2019 (6/7)

Today I’d like to talk to you about Self care and how it benefits your mental health.

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What is Self-Care?

Self-care is beneficial to everybody whether you are a mental ill health sufferer or not. Self-care by definition is ‘the practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health.’ Self Care is broken up into 5 sections, emotional, physical, phycological, spiritual and professional care.

In our lifetime we practice self-care regularly, brushing our teeth, washing our hair, choosing to exercise, etc. A person suffering a Mental Health Disorder may neglect simple health and hygiene tasks due to the low moods in their disorder. By avoiding this care we need, we are actually making our problems worse. It is important to nurture yourself.

By performing self-care you are making sure that you have what you need, you are reminding yourself that you are in fact worthy, it makes us calmer, more relaxed and able to perform little tasks in our life with ease. Self-care isn’t just bubble baths and treating yourself. It is making sure your needs are in fact fulfilled.

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I am too a victim of not putting myself and my needs first. It is very easy to get caught up in life so much that you fail to see the neglect you have put yourself through. I look in the mirror and barely recognize the face staring back at me. The one that has been swept of her feet making sure that everybody else is okay. If you can relate then please take this post as a reminder that you are important too. Self-care is never selfish, so do not feel guilty for taking the time for you.

Notice the signs, that you need it. This picture below is from blessing manifesting’s facebook page, (link is below) which I found to be very easy to read and help notice what type of self-care you need based on mood.

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Learning to recognize the signs that you need to take some time is half of the battle. Don’t push it off to later, that isn’t going to help you, or those around you. You may say ‘I don’t have time.’ Make time. It is that simple. Your self-care is much more important, without it you are unable to perform the easiest of tasks. Whether you manage to free up an hour or 15 minutes. Make every minute count. Your body and mind will thank you for it.

You will overall feel much better with yourself, your mind and your body after you have in fact taken the time you need. You could go for a walk as mild exercise, eat a healthier lunch, read a book to help exercise your brain. Challenge yourself to a puzzle or treat yourself to a face mask or salt bath.

What are you going to do for your self-care today or over this weekend?

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Leave your answers in the comments.

If anyone would like to chat about Mental Health I am always available. You can contact me via email at whatsinmywonderland@gmail.com or via any of my social media’s. I am not a professional and I cannot offer you professional advice. I can offer a listening ear and help you seek help if need be. All conversations will be 100% confidential and I will not judge you in any way. I would hate for anybody to feel alone, you are not alone. I am here for you.

Useful Links

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/mental-health-problems-introduction/self-care/#.XNV-b9h7mM8

http://www.selfcareforum.org/about-us/what-do-we-mean-by-self-care-and-why-is-good-for-people/

https://www.facebook.com/BlessingManifesting/

I have written a blog post for every day of the week for Mental Health Awareness week, each day covering a different topic. Be sure to check them all out!

Mindfulness – Mental Health Awareness Week 2019 (5/7)

What does it mean to be Mindful?

Being ‘mindful’ is simply to be conscious or aware of something. To be mindful is to be focused on the present which can be very therapeutic and good to get back in touch with what’s going on around you. Being Mindful is being able to observe your surroundings being able to pay attention to the smallest of details.

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Why is Mindfulness important?

Mindfulness helps us regulate our feelings, decreases stress, anxiety, and depression.

DBT explains Mindfulness as being broken up into two parts. ‘What’ and ‘How’ skills.’ What’ skills are what you are doing by participating in a mindfulness activity. You are observing, describing. ‘How’ skills is how you do those things, You do them non-judgementally, mindfully and effectively. By putting both of your ‘What’ skills and your ‘How’ Skills together, you are able to be more mindful.

When you are observing and describing, your opinion is solely based on facts, for example, if you were sitting on a bench watching people walk past you. You would observe and describe the man that just passed you was wearing a blue jumper. You are taking in the detail, noticing the world around you.

It can be difficult at time to be mindful and to keep your brain in the state of mindfulness. It is important to notice that your mind has begun to wander, and bring it back into that state. Do not be disheartened if you indeed struggle at first. After a while of practicing being mindful, it will become easier to do so. This is an example of how you do this non-judgementally, you do not judge yourself for losing focus.

Activities to help you be more mindful.

Mindfulness Meditation

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Guided meditation is a great way to get yourself into the present, by meditating you open up all the senses. You will feel much more relaxed and mindful after having even just a small 10 minutes of meditation. It takes some getting used to but it would be most beneficial for you to fit it into a weekly schedule. During Mindfulness Meditation do not force your brain to shut off, notice the feelings and thoughts come to your head, allow them and they will leave on there own.

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This is always the first thing that pops into my head when I think of Mindfulness, I love coloring and I find it very therapeutic. I also love to create my own colouring pages, by drawing design and scanning it in. It gives me the ability to colour whatever I want based on my own preference or mood. When I’m participating in mindfulness colouring, I focus on the colours and small details within the picture I am colouring. I let myself feel the colours and I don’t others think of the activity.

Yoga

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I find Yoga very helpful, it helps me wind down after a rough day. If you want to read about other benefits of Yoga check out my other post! Yoga focuses on breathing techniques which can also be useful if you suffer from panic attacks. By focusing on your breathing during Yoga you are being mindful to your body, observing it and going with the flow at your own pace.

Get in touch with nature

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Getting out into the world whether it’s the beach, woods, etc. It can be really beneficial for your mental health and mindfulness. You can find peace with your surrounding, listening to the sounds and seeing the sights. Pay attention to the smallest details, look for the bee’s collecting pollen, listen to the birds sing there sing-song without wondering what the time is, what you are going to do later, etc. Be present in the moment and let go.

Useful Links

https://www.mindful.org/meditation/mindfulness-getting-started/

If anyone would like to chat about Mental Health I am always available. You can contact me via email at whatsinmywonderland@gmail.com or via any of my social media’s. I am not a professional and I cannot offer you professional advice. I can offer a listening ear and help you seek help if need be. All conversations will be 100% confidential and I will not judge you in any way. I would hate for anybody to feel alone, you are not alone. I am here for you.

I have wrote a blog post for everyday of the week for Mental Health Awareness week, each day covering a different topic. Tommorow’s blog post is now available here.

The Topic is: Self-Care

 

 

My Blog and Me – Mental Health Awareness Week 2019 (4/7)

This blog post was a rather emotional awakening for me. I have realized a lot since this encounter and I’d love it if you could all remain sensitive to the fact that this is a big deal for me. Although it may not be for you.  This blog post wasn’t planned at all, I was speaking to a friend and it sparked a massive realization. Do you know those eureka moments in which everything makes sense? This was mine.

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This is how that conversation went. ( I changed it slightly for dramatic effect.)

Me – My blog is rubbish, I’m rubbish and I should give up. 

My friend – That’s your mental health speaking.

And just like that, I realized. She was right. Now, this may seem very abundantly clear to everybody else around me, but I was completely blind to it. I had become so used to that nagging voice that I hadn’t even pinpointed that it was my mental health speaking. I felt dumbfounded by this, I had never really realized how my mental health affected my blogging.

The truth is my mental health does affect my blogging experience along with many other aspects of my life.  It affects my ability to believe in myself, I constantly doubt my worth and I will always be my worst critic. I feel like I am not good enough and that I should just stop. Everybody is better than I am and nobody likes my work.

None of this is true. I know that now.

But that doesn’t and will not stop those thoughts from happening. It’s hard for me to admit that. My blog means a lot more to me than you could possibly imagine. It’s become a massive part of my life. I don’t have a huge social network and my blog provides me with the ability to talk to new people and to make new friends.  I love blogging, it makes me feel accomplished and I am very proud of myself for what I have achieved.  But there is always that voice at the back of my head telling me I am not good enough, and that I should quit.

I know that if I ever quit, I would feel miserable. If I let those thoughts win, I would be worse mentally.

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This is the moment, today, right now when I bark back and tell that voice that they are wrong. I am a great blogger, I am a writer and I am determined to follow my dream even if that means battling my mental health along the way. I can do this and I will. I will continue to fight off those thoughts. I will continue to write even on the bad days. If I need a break, I will take one. But I will not ever quit.

Don’t let your mental health stop you from being yourself, don’t let it stand in the way of your dreams. Everything and anything is possible!

If anyone would like to chat about Mental Health I am always available. You can contact me via email at whatsinmywonderland@gmail.com or via any of my social media’s. I am not a professional and I cannot offer you professional advice. I can offer a listening ear and help you seek help if need be. All conversations will be 100% confidential and I will not judge you in any way. I would hate for anybody to feel alone, you are not alone. I am here for you.

I have wrote a blog post for everyday of the week for Mental Health Awareness week, each day covering a different topic. Tommorow’s blog post is now available here.

The Topic is: Mindfulness

 

Understanding Mental Health – Mental Health Awareness Week 2019 (3/7)

It’s Mental Health Awareness week and I have planned and written a post for each and every day! Today I will be talking about what mental health is and how it affects people.

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Here is a photograph of my 4-year-old Amelia and the sign we have made to help raise awareness for Mental Health Week 2019.

What is mental health?

There is no definitive definition of Mental Health. Mental Health is simply made up of factors of our wellbeing, it is the ability to have healthy cognition and perception of life. Mental Health is being able to live and function in everyday society it is not a steady continuum and it will fluctuate during certain points in an individual’s life. To maintain good mental health, you must have a good combination of contributing factors such as biological, social and psychologic.

Nobody’s mental health experience is the same, even if they are both suffering from the same problem. Mental health disorders will be diagnosed if distinguishing symptoms persist. Mental health disorders can vary from Depression to Kleptomania.

How Mental Health Affects people.

Not everybody finds it very easy to talk about Mental Health Problems very openly. Some people go undiagnosed for years due to not wanting to be judged or out of fear of diagnosis. Not all diagnosis’ are straight forward, and everybody has a different experience with finding that diagnosis. It would be impossible for me to tell you how everybody who suffers mental health problems feels, due to the fact there are so many different disorders and I can not speak for everybody, especially the disorder’s I do not suffer from.

I can say with complete confidence that many ill mental health sufferers feel alone. Their disorders can make them feel isolated and a person can be judged for the bad stigma that surrounds mental health. They may feel low and some to a point of feeling suicidal due to being ‘misunderstood.’ And that is why it is so important to help raise awareness and tell these people that they are not alone. We are here for you and YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

How can you help?

There are many thing you can do to help the community and people around you who may be suffering.

Get educated! – Do you want to help but don’t really know much about Mental Health? Why not do some research and educate yourself on some of the disorders, this will really help a friend or family member who is suffering as you will start to understand what they have to live with.

Share your story! – If you are suffering a Mental Health Disorder, then speak up. Talk about your experiences, this can help other people understand, and be more aware of the mental health problems that people are suffering from.

Check on people around you! – Just because somebody looks okay on the outside doesn’t mean they are. It is way too easy to put on a fake smile, look out for your loved ones and make sure they know that you are there for them.

Spread the word! – Simply talking about mental health in a sensitive tone can help break the negative stigma that surrounds it!

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Just wanted to say a massive thank you to all that have supported my blog over the past year and couple of months. 😊 I started my blog as a place to write my thoughts, feeling and to build my confidence in my own writing. I never imagined to have what I have now. 🤷‍♀️ My blog is still relatively 'small' but I am proud of it, every single bit of blood, sweat and tears I have put into it. It's been absolutely amazing to share that journey with you all. 🥰 I want my blog to be a book and lifestyle blog, last year my blog lacked in the book department so I set out this year to build up that section of my blog, whilst still writing lifestyle blog posts. Of course, what I wasn't expecting to happen was my mental health plummet, I have became practically housebound with severe anxiety shortly after starting my blog. I am now trying to write mental health blog posts alongside my other blog posts. I am now studying mental health in the hope that not only can I provide insightful posts on my blog but I can also learn more about my mental health. 😇 I want to be able to help others who suffer with there mental health and show them that you can do whatever you put your mind to. Don't let anything or anyone hold you back ever. 🥰 #whatsinmywonderland

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Why did I decide to talk openly about my Mental Health?

I have never had great mental health but within the last year, I have had a big drop that nothing could have ever prepared me for. Before my big fluctuation, I was very much supportive of the Mental Health community and would try to help out where and whenever I could.

I realized I was already growing a community in my blog and that I could be able to help other people who read my blog. I still don’t feel 100% comfortable talking openly about certain aspects of my Mental Health but with each post I write, I feel like I take away some of the power it holds over me. My Mental Health doesn’t define me, it is a part of me that I will eventually learn to live with. I am not my Mental Health.

I want to inspire other sufferer’s to speak out and be able to advise them. I want to raise awareness and help break the stigma that surrounds mental health.

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Close up of our poster!

Don’t be judgemental, learn to listen, support and help those who are suffering.

As always I am always willing to chat to anyone who needs to talk, you can email me at whatsinmywonderland@gmail.com or contact me via any of my social media pages. I can provide a listening ear and a supportive friend. You will not be judged and our conversation will be 100% confidential. I am not a professional and I can not give you professional advice but I would hate for anybody to feel like they’re alone and have nobody to talk to.

Useful links

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/

https://www.mind.org.uk/

https://mentalhealth-uk.org/

https://www.thecalmzone.net/

https://www.headstogether.org.uk/

I have wrote a blog post for everyday of the week for Mental Health Awareness week, each day covering a different topic. Tommorow’s blog post is now available here.

The Topic is: My Blog and Me